[Free] The Power Of Three Words: A Guide To Emotional Intelligence

Easy to apply; see success in every area of your life – Free Course

Added on July 30, 2025 Personal Development 5 min read

What you’ll learn

Increase emotional intelligence by applying this phrase
Success interpersonally
Success intrapersonally
Easy phrase to learn and apply TODAY to experience immediate results

Requirements

Therapist gives a 3-word phrase that anyone can learn and apply to grow in emotional intelligence

Description

Welcome to my first E-Course! I’m grateful for Udemy’s platform as I hope to share this information with YOU, my Personal Transformation enthusiasts!

In a nut shell:

Discover a powerful 3-word phrase that will increase your Emotional Intelligence (EQ).

Understand why EQ is essential for success in business, relationships, and personal growth.

This short e-course that will teach you a simple three-word phrase… apply it and you will see success in every area of your life. Each module includes key emotional intelligence competencies, a storytelling element, and applications across professional and personal contexts. Using this phrase opens dialogue, deepens awareness, and changes lives—internally and interpersonally.

Lesson 1: Welcome & Course Objectives

Learn how EQ:
- Increases empathy
- Enhances self-awareness
- Elevates social skills
- Deepens relationships
Define Emotional Intelligence as the ability to recognize, understand, manage, and influence emotions—both in yourself and others.
Explore how soft skills connected to EQ impact:
- Leadership
- Negotiation
- Interpersonal relationships
- Career growth and salary potential
Recognize that people with high EQ tend to earn more money.
Apply the 3-word phrase in a variety of contexts:
- With coworkers, bosses, clients
- In parenting and friendships
- In self-talk and reflection
- Even with strangers
Begin to shift both interpersonal and intrapersonal communication for lasting emotional growth.

Lesson 2: Introduction

Introduction to the Thera Storm’s logo featuring a fingerprint in favorite colors.
The fingerprint symbolizes that:
- Every client, situation, and person is utterly unique.
- No two experiences are exactly alike—just like fingerprints.
A powerful story illustrating how assumptions can mislead.
Emphasizes the danger of presuming shared experience in grief or trauma.
Highlights the importance of:
- Pausing to ask before responding.
- Recognizing the vast range of emotional responses to similar events.
- Creating space for the client’s unique narrative to emerge.
Emotional intelligence isn’t built solely on education or credentials. Nothing replaces the healing power of:
- Being a safe space
- Listening without judgment
- Being emotionally present
Each story shared is as personal and individual as a fingerprint.
Introduces the concept of radical curiosity:
- A deep, intentional commitment to approach each person and situation with openness.
Radical curiosity forms the foundation of the core 3-word phrase.
It’s both a personal and professional commitment to stay curious, not conclusive.

Lesson 3: Objectives Deeper Dive

Understand the prefixes:
- “Intra” = within oneself (internal)
- “Inter” = between people (external)
Learn how emotional intelligence (EQ) operates on two levels:
- Intrapersonal (self-focused)
- Interpersonal (relationship-focused)
Identify the three pillars of EQ being developed:
- Empathy:
  - Intra: Compassion toward your own thoughts and feelings
  - Inter: Understanding others’ emotions and perspectives
- Awareness:
  - Intra: Self-awareness—recognizing your own emotions and behaviors
  - Inter: Social awareness—noticing emotional cues in others
- Mood Regulation:
  - Intra: Managing your own emotional state
  - Inter: Positively influencing emotional dynamics in interactions
Prepare to apply a 3-word phrase that builds EQ internally and externally.

Lesson 4: The Secret Sauce

“Tell Me More” is a simple yet powerful 3-word phrase.
It enhances emotional intelligence by encouraging deeper listening and reflection.
Using this phrase helps:
- Foster deeper understanding
- Build stronger interpersonal connections
- Promote empathy and curiosity
It can be used in:
- Interpersonal situations – to connect with others
- Intrapersonal situations – to explore your own thoughts and emotions
This section will use stories and real-life examples to show how “Tell Me More” can be:
- Understood clearly
- Emotionally relatable
- Applied immediately in your life

Lesson 5: INTER-Personally

Core Concept: “Tell Me More” as a Tool

Encourages deeper sharing, understanding, and connection.
Signals genuine interest and fosters emotional safety.
Builds empathy by helping us see others’ perspectives.
Useful in both professional and personal relationships.
Prevents assumptions and misinterpretations.

Application Stories and Lessons

Story: The Gym Trainer in Portugal

Trainer made assumptions based on stereotypes and defaulted to appearance-focused questions.
Missed an opportunity to ask: “Why are you here? Tell me more.”
Lesson: Professionals must stay curious and avoid projection.

Story: School Counselor & Childhood Divorce

Counselor made an assumption with: “It’s not your fault.”
This introduced doubt and confusion.
Lesson: Don’t project common narratives onto unique experiences—ask first, listen deeply.

Story: The Pencil Eraser & Unresolved Grief

A husband’s disproportionate reaction to a lost eraser tied to unresolved trauma of losing his mother.
Friend’s judgment shifted to empathy after she said: “Tell me more.”
Lesson: Emotional outbursts may be connected to deeper unresolved pain.

Story: Missing the School in Rome

Daughter says, “I miss my school in Rome.”
Parent assumes it’s about friends/teacher—but it was the symmetrical building design.
Lesson: Even with loved ones, assumptions can mislead—“Tell me more” opens clarity.

Final Reflections

Emotional intelligence ≠ constant emotional deep dives.
It’s about pausing assumptions, making space, and asking others to elaborate first.
“Tell me more”:
- Builds trust.
- Deepens communication.
- Strengthens both personal and professional bonds.
This phrase has universal relevance—beyond therapy or grief—it’s applicable in everyday life.

Lesson 6: INTRA-personally

Core Concept: “Tell Me More” Intrapersonally

Use “Tell Me More” as a self-inquiry tool when facing strong emotions or challenges.
Helps identify underlying beliefs, thoughts, or patterns.
Encourages self-awareness, emotional regulation, and mental clarity.
Promotes curiosity instead of self-judgment.

Practical Prompts to Ask Yourself

“I feel frustrated — tell me more about why I feel this way.”
“What can I learn from this — tell me more about the opportunity here.”
“What thought or belief is underneath this emotion?”

Key Lessons & Stories

Story: The Bartender Dream

Trigger: Husband casually shares post-retirement dream of bartending.
Immediate internal reaction: Rage.
Through self-inquiry, discovered resentment about always sacrificing her own career.
Outcome: Emotional shift from anger to empathy and clarity on her own purpose.
Lesson: “Tell Me More” helps untangle intense emotions to reveal deeper needs.

Story: Hearing What Wasn’t Said

Daughter says: “We are out of bread”, internalized as: “You’re a terrible mom.”
Boss says: “Numbers are low”, internalized as: “You’re going to be fired.”
Lesson: Self-reflection helps us notice when we’re projecting fears or assumptions.
“Tell me more” fosters objective thinking over automatic self-blame or criticism.

Naming Emotions More Precisely

Sometimes we just feel “off” — not everything is simply happy, sad, or angry.
Consider more nuanced feelings: dismissed, excluded, invisible, inferior, etc.
Helps trace back to root causes like unmet needs, exhaustion, hormones, or past wounds.
Lesson: Descriptive emotional vocabulary enhances clarity and compassion.

Emotional Regulation & Nervous System

Pausing to self-reflect with “Tell Me More”:
- Calms the nervous system.
- Reduces emotional reactivity.
- Brings awareness and control over thoughts and behaviors.
Lesson: Self-inquiry is a powerful act of emotional intelligence and self-care.

Lesson 7: Conclusion

Key Takeaways: The Power of “Tell Me More”
- A small phrase with big impact—fosters curiosity, connection, and compassion.
- Works both interpersonally and intrapersonally—in conversations with others and in self-reflection.
- Promotes emotional exploration and a deeper understanding of thoughts, feelings, and motivations.
- Enhances emotional intelligence by encouraging sensitivity and thoughtful inquiry.
- Strengthens communication, empathy, and relational trust.
Closing Message
- This tool is simple to use and easy to apply in daily life.
- Practicing it regularly can lead to personal growth and stronger relationships.
- Try using “Tell Me More” today and observe how it shifts your conversations and self-talk.
- Thank you for participating—here’s to your journey in emotional intelligence!